Tuesday’s Trench Truth

Welcome to Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and Tuesday’s Trench Truth with Trench Classes United. I love sharing these truths we discover in the trenches with other Transformers. Grab your coffee and come on in for a moment of truth.

Did you know there are 7 major things that drive our fear cars? These 7 things are not so obvious, though, and often not even acknowledged. Let me share them with you as well as a corresponding truth and/or possible explanation.

1.     We fear being different: this fear feeds our need to belong, to be accepted.

2.     We fear not being good enough: Again, this fear is driven by our need to belong, to be accepted and/or loved. (In other words, that message of not being good enough started somewhere.)

3.     We fear commitment: This fear could come from an experience of rejection, painful breakups, of hurting and being hurt or even witnessing these things in the life or lives of close family/friends. This fear can also be a counterfeit mask for the true desire of intimacy and security which comes from a long-term, trust-based relationship.

4.     We fear change and/or discomfort: Predictability is a form of control, to this fear is driven by a need to “feel” in control of your world, your home, schedule, et cetera. But where does it come from?

5.     We fear facing inner truths and inadequacies: This fear may be rooted in a childhood where it wasn’t okay to be or to express what was inside of you.

6.     We fear not being loved in return: This fear is rooted in a lack of self-confidence, self-worth and hinders intimacy. This may be as a result of feeling little to no comfort and/or nurturing as a child from parent(s).

Now, go ahead and take a moment and assess your fears. It’s just you and God. When we are honest with ourselves, we are more inclined to be honest with Him.

Use the 0-10 scale to confirm or deny whether you have any of these fears: 0 means you never fear/feel that which is spoken about and 10 says more often than not you have that fear or feelings of fear.

Information is the beginning of freedom. You can’t change or correct that which you don’t know needs changed or corrected!

Thoughtfully,

Evinda