Showing posts with label #relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label #relationships. Show all posts

Friday, September 7, 2018

Active listening is authentically listening! MP


 Faith-Filled Friday

My Mother instructed me to always make eye contact with my teachers so they would think I was interested in what they were saying …

Welcome to Coffee Hour at Chicklit Power and Faith-Filled Friday with Trench Classes United & Megan Pilarik.

My Mother was a teacher, so undoubtedly she knew what it took to make a teacher feel valued. Making eye contact is an important component of active listening, but active listening is not the art of making others think you are interested in what they have to say. Active listening is the ability to be authentically interested in what someone is communicating to you.

My husband and I attended a family wedding this weekend. I thought this would be a good opportunity to practice active listening skills. I should have known better. My novice listening skills and I failed miserably. I was constantly distracted. Being a good listener takes a lot of commitment and focus! The only thing I accomplished was recognizing I was not being a very good listener.

Jesus listened. He was fully present with everyone He encountered. He gave people His full attention and permitted them to tell their story. He first listened - and then ministered to their needs.

The Christ-centered, Christian care Stephen Ministry teaches its caregivers the importance of listening before responding. People going through sickness, grief, and hard times need someone to share it with. Being heard helps them feel valued and understood.

God works through our listening to accomplish healing. God works through our listening to inspire others to do what they know they must do. 

James 1:19 (NKJV) “So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.”
                                                                                                                                
Be swift to listen … it just may be your greatest gift.

Your comments are always most welcome.

Lovingly in Christ,
Megan


Thursday, May 10, 2018

What you do to be heard & understood determines how well you will be heard and understood. EL


Invitation Thursday:

Have you ever felt misunderstood by friends you deemed close? What do you do to right the wrong? Do you write them off or work through it? Learning to communicate through misunderstandings can be difficult at best. Join us tonight at 5:45 for a little friendship test to determine your strength of friendships at www.facebook.com/trenchclassesunited  and plan on joining us for a life-changing relationship workshop with best-selling authors, Milan & Kay Yerkovich (authors of How we Love) THIS Saturday from 9-3. Tickets are still available.
Looking forward to seeing you on F.B. live tonight at 5:45
 See you there
Love,
Kim-Evinda
P.S. Don’t forget to join me tonight on Facebook Live at 5:45 @ www.facebook.com/trenchclassesunited


Wednesday, April 18, 2018

Being green with envy only makes one feel blue EL


I met one of my BFF’s for lunch the other day. We go way back but sort of got out of consistent contact and that is now starting to change and I’m so grateful because she has such a special place in my heart. After we ordered, she very casually announced that her husband was quitting his job. With my mouth open – quite wide for the first few seconds – I listened as she replayed the plans her and her husband had for their future which sounded pretty financially successful and secure.  I was happy for her, truly happy, and yet, there was something else tugging on my emotions. Was it envy? Welcome to Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power and Wednesday’s Word with Trench Classes United.
It sounded like a great plan; they are on to something and their finances, which we all know trickle down into every other aspect of married life, have been really blessed. I mean, God’s really brought her so far in so many ways. “Do you ever look back and marvel at how far you’ve come, how far He’s brought you?” I asked her.
She didn’t hesitate, “Absolutely!”
We took a quick trip down memory lane and at the end of it, I admitted that I was super happy for her and a bit envious, too, because I really didn’t think I’d be in the financial position I am currently – which isn’t bad, but definitely not where I had wanted to be.
We talked about that for a few minutes and our conversation veered over into priorities and I found myself admitting that though I enjoy court reporting and thankful for the ability to still do it part time, my heart and soul are in the ministry…my heart beats for the church, for people to understand the reality of the necessity of Christ in their lives.
I’ll never, ever forget her profound and matter-of-fact response: “That’s why. Your priorities are different; that’s all.”
In that moment I was reminded of Abba’s words to me years before; I have more of an ERA (eternal retirement account) than an IRA (individual retirement account.)

Oh, to live for my next life and not be so caught up in this life!

That’s easier said than done, right? I love this reminder from Paul in Philippians 4:11-13  (NIV)

11 I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”
 And truthfully, I wouldn’t change my life…or my calling…even if I could!
Love,
Kim-Evinda

Monday, January 1, 2018

Monday’s Mantra



The ancient Babylonians are said to be the first people to make New Year’s resolutions some 4000 years ago.  During a religious 12-day festival, the Babylonians would crown a new king or reaffirm their loyalty to the reigning king. They would also make promises, or resolutions, to their gods, to pay debts and return the things they had borrowed. If they kept their word, their pagan gods would bestow favor upon them. If not, they would fall out of their gods’ favor – a position no one wished to be in.

Welcome to Coffee Hour at Chicklit Power and Megan’s Monday Mantra with Trench Classes United.

Approximately 42% of all American adults make New Year’s resolutions. Self-improvement, weight, and money related resolutions top the list. Sadly, learning something new, improving relationships, and doing more good deeds for others, land at the very bottom. Only 8% of people who make New Year’s resolutions are successful in achieving them. Thank God the other 92% do not live back in the days of the Babylonians!

There are countless things I would change about myself, but I quit making New Year’s resolutions long ago. I learned, the hard way, living and working in my own strength did not make me successful in achieving my goals. Instead, I have made one life-time resolve: to practice being still in God’s Presence so that He can strengthen me and change the things I cannot or would not change myself.  

To quote Sarah Young, In Jesus calling:

“Come to me with a teachable spirit, eager to be changed. Give yourself fully to this adventure of increased attentiveness to My Presence.”

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)

Have a Happy and Blessed New Year!

Lovingly in Christ,
Megan



Tuesday, February 7, 2017

Tuesday’s Trench Truth



Thanks so much for joining us for #Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power and Trench Classes United. It’s time for Tuesday’s Trench truth, and now that we are in the trenches, it brings me such joy to share a powerful truth we are learning about. Grab your coffee and your strand of faith and let’s go tie some knots in our faith that it won’t come unraveled as more truths are revealed!

Do you have a hard time asking for what you want or need? This is one of the most common symptoms of identity problems, and it could be for whatever reason. I can say most emphatically that there’s a history behind this inability, and history needs to be studied so as not to be repeated!
Many of us have heard someone say, or have even said ourselves, that we are with the wrong person, or “I made a mistake,” or even more common is the mistake of blaming others for the lack of a voice in our significant relationships.

Let me let you in on a little secret: These inabilities didn’t just show up in your/their adult life! They have a genesis, a starting point if you will.  But the longer we go unaware of the root of the problem, the bigger the root. What happens with roots? Unattended roots encroach into the lives of others! This is what I deem relational insanity, but you can’t know what you don’t know!
Taking the time to figure out you so you can do you in any “us” that is significant to you is a big part of the equation of a healthy relationship!


Join me Thursday for a little assessment to determine if you have lost your voice in any of your relationships!
Evinda

Thursday, January 26, 2017

Thursday’s Trench Truth





Do you think that what is wrong in your significant relationships is all about the other person? Join us to learn how to be a better  you in any of your relationships!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uvZyy0wCC6w&feature=youtu.be

Tuesday, January 24, 2017

Thursday, January 19, 2017

Thursday’s Trench Truth


Do relationships interfere with your peace? Tonight’s the night! Join us for A Night of Purpose and learn how to live in peace!



Thursday, December 29, 2016

Thursday’s Trench Truth





Are you tired of relationship chaos? Do you wonder if that unlovable person in your life will ever see things from your perspective? Two broken halves do not make a whole! Join us to rise above relational chaos and embrace your God-given identity! https://www.trenchclassesunited.com/transformtrenchclasses.html

Tuesday, December 27, 2016

Tuesday’s Trench Truth




Do you lay awake at night, worrying about what you worry about? Are you anxious more and more? Did you know that there are more than 79 million Americans on either anti-depressants or anti-anxiety meds? Isn’t time to “Embrace our Identity without Chaos and Confusion”? Join us for a Night of Purpose.

Thursday, December 22, 2016

Thursday’s Trench Truth






Don’t allow your feelings to drive the car; you’re bound to get in an accident!

Join us for A Night of Purpose to discover how our feelings can cause emotional wrecks in our relationships and learn how to avoid accidents!
https://www.trenchclassesunited.com/transformtrenchclasses.html
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Tuesday, December 6, 2016

Tuesday’s Trench Truth




A setback brings with it an opportunity for a comeback! Do you ever feel like you go two steps forward and five backwards? Oh, the dance we dance in relationships can be anything but fun! Join us to learn how to not step on the toes of those you love by Embracing your Identity without Chaos and Confusion! https://www.eventbrite.com/myevents/