Nana Holds!

Welcome back to more of Nana Holds. Grab your coffee and come on in.

So these emotional tug-of-wars with various ropes would last a few days each time he came back from his grandma who he calls mommy and while struggling to understand some of what I was feeling and why I was feeling it, I showed up sort of on automatic. It’s not that I didn’t want to care for him; I’ve moved way beyond that and I have surrendered to Him in this season. But there was something keeping me from something, and that’s all I knew. I wondered why he and I were bonding so differently and so slowly, and why he didn’t love me the way he loved her! Is it because we are not blood-related? Talk about feeling like a bull in a china cabinet bucked to and fro by my frustrations!

And please don’t misunderstand these mixed emotions for jealousy because I truly am not jealous; rather I am a bit envious of what they share. Incidentally, I happen to really love this woman, Bryden’s fraternal grandmother, and we are truly becoming good friends who are, I believe, learning from each other!

It was in these short periods that I would catch myself dwelling on the cost of the sacrifice in this season but deep down in my soul, I acknowledged that He allowed it. I could choose to be bitter or choose to be better. Paul tells us in 1st Thessalonians 5:17 to give thanks in all circumstances for this is His will for us.

See, I don’t believe it was/is His perfect will for a child to be born out of wedlock, or in the midst of so much dysfunction – we could discuss the painful situations all day that are endless and happening all around us — but what I know that I know that I know is I can praise Him for what He can do while I’m in this circumstance, in this season of being mama-nana to this wonderfully-engaging and gregarious little boy. So although there are times I just humanly cannot praise Him for this circumstance as I’m in it, I can praise Him for His sovereignty as I’m in it!

Join me Wednesday for some fun memories that we created in this process.

Thoughtfully,

Evinda

The Final Invitation From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Thanks so much for joining me for the final invitation in this invitation series for Living Outside Your Circumstances! Grab your coffee and come on in!

Many of us have been deceived into thinking that it’s so much easier to let the past be the past, but as an over-comer of many life issues, I can tell you that the way to abundant life, to that Destination? Joyful! ™ is through a revealing, peeling and healing process that must take place so as to not continue in the same cycles that rob us from true life.

I had no idea I still had so much to learn, especially as it relates to living outside my circumstances, but I did, and I still do, and I am humbled every time I think about sharing all that I have learned since we started this series two months ago! I am bursting at the emotional seams, wanting to give you some of the keys I now hold in my possession to unlock the prison we can often put ourselves in while in a circumstance. But I promised I would wait, so – oh, maybe just one: Take the X out of external, and what do you have?

Okay, I better hush now! Please, if you haven’t marked your calendar, won’t you plan on joining us this Saturday? He’s given me so much to share with YOU!


See you in a few days!

Evinda

Invitation Tuesday @ Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power

Thanks for joining me for Invitation Tuesday. Grab your coffee and come on in!

I can’t believe November is around the corner, which means so is our next event, Living Outside Your Circumstances. I had no idea I still had so much to learn in this area, but the truth is painfully true. I’m so grateful for His grace that keeps me in this journey and willing to share my mistakes that He turns into victories along the way. What a sovereign God we serve, an incredible Artist who is the only One who can take those painful circumstances filled with gut-wrenching colors and turn them into an awe-inspiring picture that sparkles with revelations that unleash hope and faith.

I have so much to share about how He's giving me victory in learning to live outside my circumstances, so I hope you can come. Here’s the scoop:



Looking forward to this time of transparency and encouragement,

Evinda

Power Friday @ Coffee Hour with Chicklit Power

Thanks so much for stopping by for our Power Friday thought at Chicklit Power. Grab your coffee and come on in.

If you’re joining us for the first time, these Power Friday thoughts are actually inspired by revelations, realizations, and life experienced as a result of our Blog Talk Radio show wherein we are talking about co-dependency, what it is and learning how to break free from this viral epidemic!

Last week I shared that co-dependency seems to be a viral infection and I need some turbo-strong antibiotics to cure me. Well, an important one to have on hand for many issues and it is P3, Practice, Practice, Practice! If at first you don’t succeed, do it again until you are free! You WILL make mistakes!,

See, I’ve got to keep practicing to erase these tendencies within me. The encouraging truth is even when I mess up His grace picks me up so I can try again. So I’ve been practicing a different way of communicating based on the principles we’ve been learning as they relate to keeping my stuff with my stuff, having an undivided heart, and this week, it’s been consciously choosing assertion over aggression.

We’ll talk more about that in next week’s Power Friday! Have an awesome weekend.

Assertively,

Evinda

Invitation Tuesday From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Thanks so much for stopping by today for Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power. I’m really enjoying these Invitation Tuesdays, where I can share something relevant as it relates to our next Destination? Joyful! ™ event on November 3rd. Grab your coffee and come on in.
I’ve been doing the final edit on A Cup of Hope for the Day since last Tuesday – I’m happy to say it’s finished, the final edit that is. I hope there isn’t a final, final! Anyway, I was so excited about something I read that I know that He wrote through me. In fact, as I was editing this book, I marveled at the truth that HE really did write through me because I didn’t remember writing many of the “cups of hope” that are in that book!
Anyway, this is what I read in one of the series within A Cup of Hope for the Day which I found to be so relevant for our next event: “When we allow our circumstances to build a wall around our heart, this prevents us from knowing God with our inner being. See, this kind of knowing takes experience and if there’s a wall around your heart that you’ve built to try and shield yourself from your circumstance, you are blocking yourself from the spiritual view, and that could actually be blinding!
Want to know how to live outside those circumstances in victory? Well, please accept this invitation:

Looking forward to sharing this time with you,
Evinda