Evinda Lepins

August 16th, 2013

Nana Holds-From Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power

Coffee Hour @ Chicklit Power…

Thanks for taking time to join me at Chicklit Power for another Coffee Hour and more of this series, Nana Holds. At the very core of it is the subject of relationships, healthy relationships that bring healing! If you are or know someone that is parenting your child’s child, or children, I pray that these truths will encourage you in your journey, one that He wants to use to redeem a confused generation. Grab your coffee and come on in.
The final symptom in this category is another big one, one that destroys more relationships than we realize. “Do you worry a great amount about how others perceive you?”
I can’t help but recognize the progression of symptoms. See, if you find your self-worth in others, then it’s safe to surmise that you allow worry to stay in your head rent-free when it comes to pleasing others so they think highly or better of you than you think of yourself!
He has gone through painstaking lengths to remove this imprint from the core of me. For years, this need to be perceived and received with favor drove my emotional car so fast I escaped the ride without knowing what the heck I felt, let alone knowing why. This was actually one of the first symptoms He treated in my infection, but there are many times when this symptom rears its ugly head in my relationship.
As a matter of fact, just a couple of weeks ago, I received sort of a test in this area via a conversation with someone I don’t care to talk to, but I must. One of the reasons I am extremely uncomfortable around him and his wife is their blatant misperceptions about me and their dislike for me. It wouldn’t be edifying to go into all the details and the who said this and that, but I can share these truths with you: When I was done with the conversation, I told myself, as I have many times in the past, “I don’t care what these people think of me.” I kept playing over the conversation over and over in my head like a scratched record. The more I played it, the more space it took in my head. Finally I headed to the gym, because otherwise I would have picked up the broom, and within minutes, I realized that I did and do care about what/how they think of me but here’s the difference: I won’t be controlled by what they think of me!
That’s when you know you are free from this symptom, when what others think of you or how others perceive you no longer controls you!
Have an amazing weekend!
Evinda

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Tags: co-dependency, perception, pleaser